We have been trying to train our daughter for a year. She just won’t go unless she has a pull up on. Being a long weekend, I was determined to give up the pull ups all together and let her pee on the floor and train her this weekend. We started the morning by taking her pull off up (wet) and sat her on the potty,.she sat and pretended to push, sat there and we waited…nothing. she said she was done and she wiped, flushed, washed her hands and I gave her 1 M&M and told her nice try.

I did this every 1/2 hour – She never peed yesterday from 7:30 am until THIS MORNING at 7:15 am when I put a pull up on her. Thats 24 hours!! HOW CAN THAT EVEN BE POSSIBLE??!!??!!

IN MY MIND, it seems like the only time she thinks she is allowed to pee or poop is when she has these damn pull ups on…and if she doesn’t have one on, she just doesn’t go!

I had her in underwear all day yesterday and took her on the potty every 1/2 hr. Fed her popsicles, water, juice, & milk and gave her 1 m & m everytime she sat on the potty. When it was naptime, I layed down with her, she had underwear on…I thought for sure she would pee in bed, which was fine, I was willing to strip the sheets, whatever…just as long as she peed.

Well she didn’t pee when she slept. (amazing!) then all evening the same thing, finally it was bed time….I was going to put a pull up on her, but figured I came this far, I might as well stick with the panties. I was up almost every hour last night, checking to see if she peed….unbelievably, she didn’t!!

She woke up dry this morning and I put her on the potty right away…i mean, at this point i knew she had to go. She sat on the potty, but nothing…so I’m like, ok, what do I do know?! I took a pull up and cut a hole in it, thinking I would sit her on the potty and she would pee thru the hole in the pull up. I put the pull up on her, walked to the kitchen and by the time I came back, she had peed on the floor.

Ok, so I said yeah, you peed, next time let’s do it on the potty. cut another hole in the next pull up and within 10 minutes she peed on the floor again…ok, yeah, you peed, next time lets go on the potty. What do I do now? back to pull-ups? back to her holding it for 24 hrs (which I know is NOT healthy)…I am at my wits end, my boys were potty trained at 2.

I have read every book and article on potty training. I tried the videos, dolls, stickers, books, etc. I am desperate and discouraged.
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Again, I am trying to ditch the pull ups, but how can I when she holds it for 24 hours??? Can’t she get a bladder or kidney infection to hold her urine for that long? I mean, 24 hours (even thru sleeping) in cloth underwear and still she’s holding it!

I read this and answered this just a moment ago. However, I don’t think you mentioned she was developmentally delayed before. Maybe she’s just not ready to be potty trained yet. You might need to stop trying to potty train for a week or more and then re-introduce it again. She could be scared of it right now and trying to potty train her at this moment is going to get you nowhere. You should talk to her educators, therapists, etc., about the best techniques they have used and if they think she is ready.