We have been trying to train our daughter for a year. She just won’t go unless she has a pull up on. Being a long weekend, I was determined to give up the pull ups all together and let her pee on the floor and train her this weekend. We started the morning by taking her pull off up (wet) and sat her on the potty,.she sat and pretended to push, sat there and we waited…nothing. she said she was done and she wiped, flushed, washed her hands and I gave her 1 M&M and told her nice try.
I did this every 1/2 hour – She never peed yesterday from 7:30 am until THIS MORNING at 7:15 am when I put a pull up on her. Thats 24 hours!! HOW CAN THAT EVEN BE POSSIBLE??!!??!!
IN MY MIND, it seems like the only time she thinks she is allowed to pee or poop is when she has these damn pull ups on…and if she doesn’t have one on, she just doesn’t go!
I had her in underwear all day yesterday and took her on the potty every 1/2 hr. Fed her popsicles, water, juice, & milk and gave her 1 m & m everytime she sat on the potty. When it was naptime, I layed down with her, she had underwear on…I thought for sure she would pee in bed, which was fine, I was willing to strip the sheets, whatever…just as long as she peed.
Well she didn’t pee when she slept. (amazing!) then all evening the same thing, finally it was bed time….I was going to put a pull up on her, but figured I came this far, I might as well stick with the panties. I was up almost every hour last night, checking to see if she peed….unbelievably, she didn’t!!
She woke up dry this morning and I put her on the potty right away…i mean, at this point i knew she had to go. She sat on the potty, but nothing…so I’m like, ok, what do I do know?! I took a pull up and cut a hole in it, thinking I would sit her on the potty and she would pee thru the hole in the pull up. I put the pull up on her, walked to the kitchen and by the time I came back, she had peed on the floor.
Ok, so I said yeah, you peed, next time let’s do it on the potty. cut another hole in the next pull up and within 10 minutes she peed on the floor again…ok, yeah, you peed, next time lets go on the potty. What do I do now? back to pull-ups? back to her holding it for 24 hrs (which I know is NOT healthy)…I am at my wits end, my boys were potty trained at 2.
I have read every book and article on potty training. I tried the videos, dolls, stickers, books, etc. I am desperate and discouraged.
Again, I am trying to ditch the pull ups, but how can I when she holds it for 24 hours??? Can’t she get a bladder or kidney infection to hold her urine for that long? I mean, 24 hours (even thru sleeping) in cloth underwear and still she’s holding it!
What worked for my daughter was keeping her naked. We hid all the pull-ups and said they didn’t make them anymore and that she would have to go on the toilet. She panicked, cried, screamed but eventually gave-in, sat on the toilet and went #1 and #2 and after one good day of this and about another day and a half of encouraging it, she was potty trained. We did use pull-ups at night for about another 2 weeks and then she was completely potty trained.
Ask the pediatrician about her holding it for so long but if she learns you are not going to put a pull-up on her, she’s eventually going to have to go and can’t hold it anymore. Give her cranberry juice with water and a ton of it.
The thing that finally worked for my daughter was to ditch the pull ups altogether and get some of those cloth training pants with a liner – they sell some at Walmart called Kushies. They are crazy expensive but machine washable and they’ll allow her to feel when she goes, unlike pullups which are pretty much like a diaper.
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What worked for my daughter was keeping her naked. We hid all the pull-ups and said they didn’t make them anymore and that she would have to go on the toilet. She panicked, cried, screamed but eventually gave-in, sat on the toilet and went #1 and #2 and after one good day of this and about another day and a half of encouraging it, she was potty trained. We did use pull-ups at night for about another 2 weeks and then she was completely potty trained.
Ask the pediatrician about her holding it for so long but if she learns you are not going to put a pull-up on her, she’s eventually going to have to go and can’t hold it anymore. Give her cranberry juice with water and a ton of it.
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Don’t reward her with the m&m unless she really pees
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problem #1 is dont give her the m and m unless she goes potty. when i was training my daughter, i would just make a big deal that she tried and ‘yay u tried at least’ but no candy. period. unless she teed. she is 3 and will still tee in her pull up so i had to just go buy underware and she hates teeing in thos so she goes on her own now. if i have a pull up on her i have to ask and remind her allllllll friggin day or she’ll just tee in it
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Most people begin training when their child is about two, but some kids may not be ready until well into their fourth year. Watch for the right signs, such as imitating others’ bathroom habits, and don’t pressure your child to start before they are ready. It’s worth running through a basic checklist to see if they are ready.
First and foremost, this means investing in a child-sized potty or a special seat to attach to your regular toilet. Whichever you choose, make sure your child can stabilise themselves with their feet so he can push when they are having a bowel movement. You may also want to pick up an explanatory picture book or video for your child to help them get interested in training.
Sit your child fully clothed on the potty seat once a day — after breakfast, before their bath, or whenever else they are likely to have a bowel movement . This allows them to get used to the potty and accept it as part of their routine. If they do not want to sit on it, that’s okay. Never restrain your toddler or physically force them to sit there. And especially don’t push the issue if they seems scared. In both cases, it’s better to put the potty away, or at least aside, for a few weeks or a month and then try again. If they are willing to sit there, fine. But at this stage, don’t even try to explain why they should use it; you just want them to get used to the thing. Make sure it’s always in a convenient place — since it’s portable, your child’s potty can be used in the garden or the playroom.
Sit your child on the potty seat without a nappy. Again, let them get used to what it feels like to sit there this way. At this point you can start explaining that this is what Mummy and Daddy (and any older siblings) do every day. That is, undressing before you sit down to go to the bathroom is the grownup thing to do. If they get the idea and produce something, that’s fine. But don’t push them to perform. Again, wait until they are ready and demonstrates a clear interest in using the toilet on their own.
It may help to show your child where their bowel movements go. The next time they go in their nappy, take them to their potty, sit them down, and empty the nappy beneath them into the bowl. This will help them make the connection between sitting and producing. After you’ve emptied their potty into the big toilet, let them flush it if they want to (but don’t make them do it if they are scared) so they can see where it goes. Teach them to dress theirselves and wash their hands when they are done.
Encourage your child to use their potty whenever they feel the urge to go. But make sure they know that they can tell you, too, and that you’ll take them to the bathroom whenever they want you to. If you can, let them run around sometimes without a nappy (or any clothing below the waist), with the potty nearby. Tell them they can use it whenever they want to and remind them occasionally that it’s there if they needs it.
You may like to try using training pants whilst potty training. Some children like them and they help, others just think of them as a slightly different type of nappy and they defeat the object of the exercise. Some children are encouraged by having real underwear instead.
Virtually every child will have several accidents during potty training before being completely trained during the day and at night. Don’t get angry or punish your child; after all, it’s only recently that their muscles have developed sufficiently to allow them to hold their bladder and rectum closed at all. Mastering the process will take time. When they have an accident, calmly clean it up and suggest that next time he try using his potty instead.
Even when your child is consistently clean and dry all day, it may take him several more months or years to master night potty training, so don’t throw away his nappies just yet. At this age, their body is still too immature to reliably wake him up in the middle of the night just to go to the bathroom. You can help cut down on wet nights by not letting your toddler drink too much before bedtime and telling them that if they do wake up in the middle of the night they can call to you to help them get to the potty. You can also try leaving their potty near the bed in case they want to use it.
Believe it or not, when your child is ready to learn this new grown-up skill, they will. And if you wait until they are really ready to start, the process shouldn’t be too painful for either of you. They will eventually be trained, and you won’t have to think about it again
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